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🐫🐫🐫🐫🐫🐫 Good evening Mysticcat, thanks for lighting the Bonfire! I have 117,100 unsmokeds for incineration tonight. Enjoy another fabulous smoke free evening everyone!

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I'm throwing my 78,760 unsmoked cigarettes onto the bonfire!

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I'm throwing my 129,940 unsmoked cigarettes onto the bonfire!

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It’s the “What Day Is It” Bonfire

It’s Hump Day🐪🐫! 1/2 way till the weekend! wooohoooo! Everyone is invite so don’t be shy. Just toss your unsmoked cigarettes on the fire and let’s celebrate quitting smoking! Tonight’s self-serve to mind those fingers and toes! Congratulations to all us quitters! For those new this fire was started by our own sweet 😇Q-Angel Mary Merrey(tilletoiler) long ago as place for quitters toss unsmoked cigarettes and celebrate being quit. This is also a place where you can unload your burdens and just...

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Thought for Today

Wednesday Smile

Repost:  Why "One Day at a Time" - Living in the NOW!

I really like this.   Yes we need to learn from the past, but we succeed by living and moving forward in the present.
KTQ
Cara
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When you’re new (and even when you’re not new!) life can be pretty overwhelming sometimes.

We can spend a lot of time assessing blame and dwelling in the past "if onlys" and preach about "what everyone else "needs" to or "should" do" but in reality, we have one primary purpose here: to help the person still using tobacco to quit. Our secondary purpose is to provide support to those struggling to maintain their smoke-free life. How do we do this? One day at a time...

Maybe it would be easier if there was a quitting smoking island or something where you could go and paint watercolors and listen to Beethoven symphonies until you feel strong in your quit, but there isn’t. You still have to live life, go to work, walk down the streets, deal with people, places and things, all of whom could cause problems, stress and many of which we perceive (because our inner addict is a liar and wants to kill us) "smoking triggers” in the past.

Maybe it was great if we could sit around all day and make a list of blame or fault or responsibility as if any of this would help us quit - it won't.

So, what we do is we focus on this not smoking thing just one day at a time. “One Day at a Time” is hardly a ground-breaking phrase or concept: it’s been around for centuries.

When we spend too much time focusing on the past (creating nostalgia or regret or blaming or making excuses or whatever) or the future (which can elicit hope, but also a lot of fear, since the future is unknowable), we’re not living in the NOW and therefore missing the whole point of life and living – we only have right now – the past is gone, the future not yet here – so why focus on anything other than right now whether that be to quit smoking or do anything else?

This does not mean we don’t care at all about examining what we may have done in the past to inform us on what to do or not do today, or forget about the future entirely, it just means that we try to have a more balanced approach and stop telling ourselves stories about "those good old days" or "what we deserve" or what "we're afraid of."

If we try to take on too much at one time it certainly will lead to disaster because we are loading ourselves up with guilt, fault or blame about the past, or worries and stress about a day that has not even arrived. Again, your inner addict is a liar and wants to kill you.

One day at a time is even a more sensible approach to quit smoking – we focus on not smoking today, or even 1 hour or 10 minutes at a time when need be – certainly even a person with just 8 hours without smoking can not smoke for another 10 minutes!

This breaks it down to a more manageable set of time within which to focus. We can breathe, relax, meditate for 10 minutes – we can stand on our heads – whatever it takes.

Here are a few things to try as you move through this:

Repost: Why "One Day at a Time" - Living in the NOW!

I really like this. Yes we need to learn from the past, but we succeed by living and moving forward in the present.
KTQ
Cara
D6825

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When you’re new (and even when you’re not new!) life can be pretty overwhelming sometimes.

We can spend a lot of time assessing blame and dwelling in the past "if onlys" and preach about "what everyone else "needs" to or... Show more

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Good morning all
Happy Hump Day!

I owe, I owe, off to work I go. Subbing in the south today so want to get out the door and on the road. Smoking is not going to be part of my day not today or any day thanks much. Saying NO to smoking and YES to my walk along the Freedom Road. I offer my hand to the next winner joining me kicking ash to the curb today.
Have a good one
Cara
D6825

3Y 11M
Life Saved
$101,351
Money Saved
184,275
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Good morning. It's 3:54am. Early but that's ok. I am going to say NOPE, ok promise to not smoke and get my day started.<br /><br />Did you know that today is National Absurdity Day. Somehow it is fitting. Was reading this morning that on this day years ago someone mailed their child to the grandparents for about 15¢. That's pretty absurd!<br /><br />The day with the daughter went well. We were going shoe shopping however ended up at Hobby Lobby and Old Time Pottery buying Christmas decor. She needed new hiking boots but got a rug instead and some bric-a-brac. We had fun and some good laughs. Nice lunch too!<br /><br />Time to get busy ..I bought some Christmas decor too and it's still in my car! Y'all please be nice be kind today and hope your day is easy peasey!

Good morning. It's 3:54am. Early but that's ok. I am going to say NOPE, ok promise to not smoke and get my day started.

Did you know that today is National Absurdity Day. Somehow it is fitting. Was reading this morning that on this day years ago someone mailed their child to the grandparents for about 15¢. That's pretty absurd!

The day with the daughter went well. We were going shoe shopping however ended up at Hobby Lobby and Old Time Pottery buying Christmas decor. She needed new hiking... Show more

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I'm throwing my 78,720 unsmoked cigarettes onto the bonfire!

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Hello and good evening Mysticcat, thanks for lighting the Bonfire! I have 117,075 unsmokeds for disposal tonight. See you at the Taco Bar!

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I'm throwing my 129,920 unsmoked cigarettes onto the bonfire!

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Hey!! Mysticcat - thanks for starting the bonfire tonight - I have 6710 coffin nails for the flames tonight.

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Only by God's grace I'm throwing my 253,300 unsmoked cigarettes onto the bonfire! Thank you dear friend Mysticcat for hosting Tuesday taco night bonfire I appreciate you

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Taco Tuesday Bonfire 11/19/24

Welcome to the self serve Taco Tuesday Bonfire. Yum!!! It’s toss your own unsmokeds and create your own tacos with all the fixings you can ask for. 🌮🔥 Sven has concocted some Yummy refreshments to go with your tacos. So enjoy the night!!! For those new this fire was started by our own sweet 😇Q-Angel Mary Merrey(tilletoiler) long ago as place for quitters toss unsmoked cigarettes and celebrate being quit. This is also a place where you can unload your burdens and just have fun. Find Mary’s...

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Thought for today

Tuesday Smile

Repost:  For the Strugglers Today

This is a great post.  Our quits are seldom linear - we have ups and downs as we progress and I remember being very upset when I would have a huge down past when I thought I should have one.  I often questioned if this process would ever get better- I can tell you from personal experience it does!
Have a good one.
Cara
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For the strugglers today
From zguy on 10/5/2007 12:01:29 PM

This means a lot to me. VegasHal qmailed me this on day 19of a former quit. I thought the old Nicodemon was gone, and let my guard down, and he jumped on my back, I was going crazy, and heading to the store for smokes. But I posted, and got a lot of help and support from the wonderful people on the Q.

Hope this helps you just for today.

You want a cigarette: Do I? What do I want? Specifically? What about the cigarette do I crave? Okay, fine. Maybe I want the "ahhh" feeling. But, wait, I'm through withdrawal. The first cigarette won't even give me the "ahhh" feeling anymore, because the "ahhh" feeling came from nicotine's ability to stave off the early withdrawal I felt after not smoking for 30 minutes or an hour. Now that I'm no longer in withdrawal, I'll only get dizzy and sickly from the first one, and that first one will be followed by the next one and the next one as I search for the "ahhh" feeling, and long before I ever get the "ahh" feeling, I'll realize I'm hooked again. Heck, I'll realize it after the first one.

You can handle just one: Can I? Why is it that in the past when I said that to myself, it didn't work out like I planned? If I could get by on just one, why didn't I smoke just one every now and again when I smoked, instead of smoking all of those other ones I didn't want? No. There is no such thing as just one for me, or the other greater than 90% of the smokers out there who smoke whenever their addiction demands that they smoke.

You NEED just this one: Do I really believe that I NEED to inhale hundreds of toxic chemicals into my lungs to get through this given situation? Do I really believe that I need to recommit to my addiction so that I can dull the feelings associated with this situation.

This crave is going to last forever, this crave is unbearable, quitting is just TOO DAMN HARD: Okay, what does this crave really feel like? How long is it lasting? Is it really lasting all day long? Or, is my fear of the crave, and my fear of failure, or my fear of success, making me THINK about it all day long? For how many seconds have I actually WANTED to put a cigarette in my mouth, light it and inhale, as opposed to just being anxious about my lifestyle change, and all of the things associated with it. Am I feeling anxiety? Or am I really wanting a cigarette? Will smoking a cigarette make me feel better or worse than I do? Furthermore, I KNOW from talking to all the former smokers around me that this isn't what being an ex-smoker feels like! I'm in the latter stages of withdrawal, and the early stages of reconditioning my life to NOT revolve around my addiction. Soon, I will be feeling a lot better, and I'll have a hard time remembering how hard this has been. It's only hard for a while.
Hope this helps someone. It saved me !!

Conrad

Repost: For the Strugglers Today

This is a great post. Our quits are seldom linear - we have ups and downs as we progress and I remember being very upset when I would have a huge down past when I thought I should have one. I often questioned if this process would ever get better- I can tell you from personal experience it does!
Have a good one.
Cara
D6824

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For the strugglers today
From zguy on 10/5/2007 12:01:29 PM

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Good morning all
Happy Tuesday!!!!
Up and going for the day today. In my office again for the day. I am not going to be smoking as that simply is not allowed on the Freedom Road. Saying NO to smoking and kicking more ash to the curb. I offer my hand to the next winner joining me.
Have a great day
Cara
D6824

3Y 11M
Life Saved
$101,336
Money Saved
184,248
Unsmoked

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